Valentine Day is next week. Here’s a question for you: Beyond flowers and chocolate, how can couples make this Valentine’s Day meaningful?
Mindfulness expert and Mindful Self-Compassion teacher Julie Potiker shares her tips. Julie is the author of “Life Falls Apart, but You Don’t Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm In the Midst of Chaos.”
This Valentine’s Day, couples can give their partner the unique gift of a more mindful relationship by seeing and acknowledging the amazing in them. Julie suggests:
Write down four things you are grateful for about your partner: Take a few minutes to turn your mindful attention to all that is amazing about your partner. Here are some prompts to get you started.
What about them makes you smile most?
What do you admire most about your partner?
What characteristic of their personality or way of being is most endearing to you?
Recall one of your most meaningful times together. What did your partner do or say that was so impactful, and what does that reveal about the core of who they are?
Share these mindful insights with your partner: Whether you speak them or write them in a card or letter, let your partner know that you see the amazing in them.
BONUS: Beyond Valentine’s Day, use this practice any time of year to renew your love and appreciation for each other!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Julie Potiker: Author and mindfulness expert Julie Potiker is an attorney who began her serious study and investigation of mindfulness after graduating from the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at the University of California, San Diego. She was trained by Kristin Neff, Christopher Germer, and UCSD as a Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher. She went on to study with Rick Hanson, becoming a graduate of his Positive Neuroplasticity Training Professional Course. Potiker also completed Brené Brown’s Living Brave Semester. Now, she shares these and other mindfulness techniques with the world through her Mindful Methods for Life trainings and her new book: “Life Falls Apart, but You Don’t Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm In the Midst of Chaos.” She holds a B.G.S. from the University of Michigan and a J.D. from George Washington University. Visit www.MindfulMethodsForLife.com.