Monday, December 22, 2014
MEDIA MONDAY / STUFF HAPPY PEOPLE STAY AWAY FROM
WHAT IS HAPPINESS? ARE HAPPY PEOPLE DIFFERENT?
Many of us are fascinated by articles that take a look at the causes of our behavior as human beings. Seeing ourselves as others see is, said poet Robert Burns.
Tamara Star makes her living analyzing the human condition then reporting on it as a life coach, speaker, writer and creator of the 40 day personal reboot for women.
Recently, she posted seven habits of chronically unhappy people on Huff Post’s Good News blog. The entire article’s URL is listed at the end of this post.
In her writing, Ms. Star believes there are seven qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered:
1. Your default belief is that life is hard.
2. You believe most people can't be trusted.
3. You concentrate on what's wrong in this world versus what's right.
4. You compare yourself to others and harbor jealousy.
5. You strive to control your life.
6 You consider your future with worry and fear.
7. You fill your conversations with gossip and complaints.
Star points out, according to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: "40 percent of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change."
“If this is true and it is, there's hope for us all. There are billions of people on our planet and clearly some are truly happy. The rest of us bounce back and forth between happiness and unhappiness depending on the day.
“Walk, fall down, get back up again, repeat. It's in the getting back up again where all the difference resides.
“The difference between a happy and unhappy life is how often and how long we stay there,” says Star,
ALSO READ THIS ABOUT HAPPINESS:
Another remarkable article about what qualities happy people possess go to Psychology Today’s recent article: “What Happy People Do Differently”:
The article above was written by Robert Biswas-Diener and Todd Kashdan, published 7-2-14.
And, if all else fails in our search to define happiness there is always Nobel Laureate Albert Schweitzer who left us with these immortal words: “...happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.”