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GUEST BLOG—By Michelle Obama--So I'm going to get a little serious
here, because I think we can all agree that this has been a rough week in an
already rough election. This week has been particularly interesting for me
personally because it has been a week of profound contrast.
See, on Tuesday, at the White
House, we celebrated the International Day of the Girl and Let Girls Learn. And
it was a wonderful celebration. It was the last event that I'm going to be
doing as First Lady for Let Girls Learn. And I had the pleasure of spending
hours talking to some of the most amazing young women you will ever meet, young
girls here in the US and all around the world.
And we talked about their hopes
and their dreams. We talked about their aspirations. See, because many of these
girls have faced unthinkable obstacles just to attend school, jeopardising
their personal safety, their freedom, risking the rejection of their families
and communities.
So I thought it would be
important to remind these young women how valuable and precious they are. I
wanted them to understand that the measure of any society is how it treats its
women and girls. And I told them that they deserve to be treated with dignity
and respect, and I told them that they should disregard anyone who demeans or
devalues them, and that they should make their voices heard in the world.
And I walked away feeling so
inspired, just like I'm inspired by all the young people here and I was so
uplifted by these girls. That was Tuesday.
And now, here I am, out on the
campaign trail in an election where we have consistently been hearing hurtful,
hateful language about women - language that has been painful for so many of
us, not just as women, but as parents trying to protect our children and raise
them to be caring, respectful adults, and as citizens who think that our
nation's leaders should meet basic standards of human decency.
The fact is that in this
election, we have a candidate for president of the United States who, over the
course of his lifetime and the course of this campaign, has said things about
women that are so shocking, so demeaning that I simply will not repeat anything
here today. And last week, we saw this candidate actually bragging about
sexually assaulting women. And I can't believe that I'm saying that a candidate
for president of the United States has bragged about sexually assaulting women.
And I have to tell you that I
can't stop thinking about this. It has shaken me to my core in a way that I
couldn't have predicted. So while I'd love nothing more than to pretend like
this isn't happening, and to come out here and do my normal campaign speech, it
would be dishonest and disingenuous to me to just move on to the next thing
like this was all just a bad dream.
This is not something that we can
ignore. It's not something we can just sweep under the rug as just another
disturbing footnote in a sad election season. Because this was not just a
"lewd conversation". This wasn't just locker-room banter. This was a
powerful individual speaking freely and openly about sexually predatory
behaviour, and actually bragging about kissing and groping women, using
language so obscene that many of us were worried about our children hearing it
when we turn on the TV.
And to make matters worse, it now
seems very clear that this isn't an isolated incident. It's one of countless
examples of how he has treated women his whole life. And I have to tell you
that I listen to all of this and I feel it so personally, and I'm sure that
many of you do too, particularly the women. The shameful comments about our
bodies. The disrespect of our ambitions and intellect. The belief that you can
do anything you want to a woman.
It is cruel. It's frightening.
And the truth is, it hurts. It hurts. It's like that sick, sinking feeling you get
when you're walking down the street minding your own business and some guy
yells out vulgar words about your body. Or when you see that guy at work that
stands just a little too close, stares a little too long, and makes you feel
uncomfortable in your own skin.
It's that feeling of terror and
violation that too many women have felt when someone has grabbed them, or
forced himself on them and they've said no but he didn't listen - something
that we know happens on college campuses and countless other places every
single day. It reminds us of stories we heard from our mothers and grandmothers
about how, back in their day, the boss could say and do whatever he pleased to
the women in the office, and even though they worked so hard, jumped over every
hurdle to prove themselves, it was never enough.
We thought all of that was
ancient history, didn't we? And so many have worked for so many years to end
this kind of violence and abuse and disrespect, but here we are, in 2016, and
we're hearing these exact same things every day on the campaign trail. We are
drowning in it. And all of us are doing what women have always done: We're
trying to keep our heads above water, just trying to get through it, trying to
pretend like this doesn't really bother us maybe because we think that
admitting how much it hurts makes us as women look weak.
Maybe we're afraid to be that
vulnerable. Maybe we've grown accustomed to swallowing these emotions and
staying quiet, because we've seen that people often won't take our word over
his. Or maybe we don't want to believe that there are still people out there
who think so little of us as women. Too many are treating this as just another
day's headline, as if our outrage is overblown or unwarranted, as if this is
normal, just politics as usual.
But, New Hampshire, be clear.
This is not normal. This is not politics as usual. This is disgraceful. It is
intolerable. And it doesn't matter what party you belong to - Democrat,
Republican, independent - no woman deserves to be treated this way. None of us
deserves this kind of abuse.
And I know it's a campaign, but
this isn't about politics. It's about basic human decency. It's about right and
wrong. And we simply cannot endure this, or expose our children to this any
longer - not for another minute, and let alone for four years. Now is the time
for all of us to stand up and say enough is enough. This has got to stop right
now.
Because consider this. If all of
this is painful to us as grown women, what do you think this is doing to our
children? What message are our little girls hearing about who they should look
like, how they should act? What lessons are they learning about their value as
professionals, as human beings, about their dreams and aspirations?
And how is this affecting men and
boys in this country? Because I can tell you that the men in my life do not
talk about women like this. And I know that my family is not unusual. And to
dismiss this as everyday locker-room talk is an insult to decent men
everywhere.
The men that you and I know don't
treat women this way. They are loving fathers who are sickened by the thought
of their daughters being exposed to this kind of vicious language about women.
They are husbands and brothers and sons who don't tolerate women being treated
and demeaned and disrespected. And like us, these men are worried about the
impact this election is having on our boys who are looking for role models of
what it means to be a man.
In fact, someone recently told me
a story about their six-year-old son who one day was watching the news- they
were watching the news together. And the little boy, out of the blue, said:
"I think Hillary Clinton will be president." And his mom said:
"Well, why do you say that?" And this little six-year-old said:
"Because the other guy called someone a piggy, and you cannot be president
if you call someone a piggy."
So even a six-year-old knows
better. A six-year-old knows that this is not how adults behave. This is not
how decent human beings behave. And this is certainly not how someone who wants
to be president of the United States behaves.
Because let's be very clear.
Strong men - men who are truly role models - don't need to put down women to
make themselves feel powerful. People who are truly strong lift others up.
People who are truly powerful bring others together. And that is what we need
in our next president. We need someone who is a uniting force in this country.
We need someone who will heal the wounds that divide us, someone who truly
cares about us and our children, someone with strength and compassion to lead
this country forward.
And let me tell you, I'm here
today because I believe with all of my heart that Hillary Clinton will be that
president.
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